It's been a while

While I realize the title of this blog post might make people think I mean it's been a while since I posted - and while it has, that's not what I'm talking about.

I'm talking about since I've had weird dreams - and then posted about them.

I know I've only had a couple of posts this year and I don't think I posted about a letter I received a few weeks ago. It was from a Catholic church in Galveston, Texas. Normally I wouldn't open anything from a church but I was curious because Galveston was hit so hard by Hurricane Ike and I was curious as to whether they wanted me to join their church (to build back up membership) or if they were soliciting donations to help rebuild. Those were the only options I considered. Neither of them even came close. No. It seems my ex-husband - who I haven't had any communication with whatsoever in more than 15 years - is seeking an annulment.

Personally I couldn't care less if he gets an annulment, that part of my life is long since over and I have no reason to try to stop it from going through. However, the questions they ask are quite invasive and I would be reluctant to answer them if I wanted the annulment. So, I asked a few people if he could still get the annulment if I didn't participate, or if I only answered those questions I was willing to answer. The resounding response I got was, if he didn't contact me personally (which he didn't), I shouldn't help him out. Okay, not what I was looking for but just kind of spotlights the type of relationship my ex and I always had - no communication.

Anyway, that's a little background as to why I think I'm having the dreams I am. The weekend after I got the first letter (I got it on a Friday afternoon), I dreamed my ex was in a serious relationship with Angelina Jolie. I don't really remember any of the specifics of the dream other than that. Well, that and the fact that every time I fell back to sleep, the dream would continue where I left off - for several days.

Well, I was given a deadline of January 20th to get in my response on the annulment questions and I didn't submit anything. Then yesterday afternoon my doorbell rings. It's the mail lady and she has a certified letter/return receipt for me - from the Catholic Church. They informed me that I'd missed the deadline but that they were willing to give me two more weeks to get my response in. If I haven't responded by then, they will assume I'm not willing to participate and will progress the annulment without a response from me. They go on to point out that it can still go through, even if I don't respond, suggesting that if I want to stop it, I'll have to respond with why it shouldn't be granted, which I think is hysterical. But I digress.

So, I had another dream last night. My ex was still with Angelina Jolie. They were living in a house with other people - including my mother! I wasn't much welcome there because everyone was more concerned with hurting my ex and Angelina, but I went over there to discuss things with the ex and we ended up in bed together. Mind you, this bed was in the middle of the living room - a common room. We're getting ready to do the deed when Angie's (yes, I called her Angie in the dream) brother walks in and interrupts us. He makes my ex feel really guilty so he gets dressed and leaves, leaving me there to contend with the brother and everyone else, who all want me out of there before Angie gets home and discovers I was there. The kids were all there, Pax, Maddox, Shiloh - all of them (they all loved me, by the way) and they were playing with my stuff so I was having a hard time finding my keys and cell phone and stuff.

And I was still looking for my stuff when Angie got home - and was pissed. She came across my phone and was pointing it at the TV (apparently it also subbed as a TV remote - I haven't really figured that one out) yelling at me. When she finally set it down, I went to get it but it was gone. By this point my mother was telling me I needed to leave because I was upsetting Angelina but I didn't want to leave without all my stuff because who knew if or when I would get it back. I finally decided to leave without my phone because I didn't think there was anything incriminating on it - I didn't have my ex's number programmed into it or anything. Heck, it was much like when we were separated, I didn't have his numbers...I had to wait for him to call me, so I figured I was safe - even though I wanted my phone for convenience of having it when I needed it. I got out to the car and remembered that there were some text messages that Angelina wouldn't appreciate and I went back in to look some more. I also thought I would be able to call him to warn him that I'd run into his lady love.

Well, when I got back into the house my ex was in there. We looked for the phone a bit and then ended back up in the bed, this time doing the deed. Angie's brother came in just after and then I woke up.

I'm thinking I should send off the paperwork, if for no other reason, to stop the weird dreams!

Recap of 2008

I'm stealing this from Alyssa, who stole it from Sarakastic who stole it from others, so this is far from an original post idea but it looked like fun and I'm nothing if not a follower (hey, the leaders gotta have someone following them, right? ;) ). Basically what I've done is taken the first sentence of the last blog post of every month. Then assembled the sentences in such a way that it might tell a bit of a story.

Here are the sentences:

January Well, Slime Boy (the probably married man that asked me out) got let go.

February The other day I had a doctor's appointment.

March Dear Muse, It was so nice to see you this weekend.

April Lately I've felt like I've been so behind on everything.

May I've been having some interesting dreams lately.

June I told a friend of mine yesterday that I'd blog about an eHarmony discovery I made.

July In less than 24 hours I should be in San Francisco.

August Okay, so you know that it took an online dating service for me to reconnect with a long lost friend (who I went out with once before a hundred years ago).

September Well, SCG and his family got here Friday around 10:00 a.m. and worked until about 4:00 p.m. - and we didn't finish the clean up! I

October Well, I went running last night.

November As most of you know, I did the online dating thing this past summer.

December Okay, this has to be a top 9 because well, there aren't 10 books that I feel that I can say I loved this year - of course that probably has a lot to do with the fact that I'm down from over 70 books read from last year to just over 30 this year, including audio books.

So, my mishmash, for what it's worth:

The other day I had a doctor's appointment. Well, Slime Boy (the probably married man that asked me out) got let go.

I told a friend of mine yesterday that I'd blog about an eHarmony discovery I made. As most of you know, I did the online dating thing this past summer. Okay, so you know that it took an online dating service for me to reconnect with a long lost friend (who I went out with once before a hundred years ago).

Dear Muse, It was so nice to see you this weekend. I've been having some interesting dreams lately. Lately I've felt like I've been so behind on everything. Well, SCG and his family got here Friday around 10:00 a.m. and worked until about 4:00 p.m. - and we didn't finish the clean up!

Well, I went running last night. In less than 24 hours I should be in San Francisco.

Okay, this has to be a top 9 because well, there aren't 10 books that I feel that I can say I loved this year - of course that probably has a lot to do with the fact that I'm down from over 70 books read from last year to just over 30 this year, including audio books. (Yeah, I know this one doesn't work but what are ya gonna do?)

2009 - A Look Ahead

Over the last few days I've seen a lot of blogs talking up resolutions - do you have them or not? Well, I'm a member of the "not" group. I became a member of that group when, one year after many years of not keeping my resolutions, I resolved to gain 10 pounds. It was a joke and something that at the end of the year I could say "I didn't gain 10 pounds. . . darn." It was the first resolution I kept, unfortunately. But, from that point forward, I don't do resolutions - just goals, and gaining weight has never been among them again.

I only recall two goals being set for 2008 (if there were more, I've forgotten them). One was to get a passport and the other was to have a scandalously inappropriate affair. And, while there was promise of the second one happening, neither goal was met so I'm officially rolling them over into my 2009 goals.

However, I want to add a few more goals to the 2009 list. They are (in no particular order):

• pamper myself more - massages are going to become more of a necessity rather than a luxury. :) I'm also going to indulge myself more, without thinking of the monetary consequences. I actually started this yesterday by buying my first Coach purse. Never thought I'd spend that much on a purse but you only live once.
  
• query this year. I'm working on something that I like and the goal is to have it complete before I start querying it but I've written a synopsis that starts going out January 20 (when school starts back up), whether I've finished the manuscript or not.
• make time for friends. With going back to school this past year it's been hard to work in the friends but that's important to do as well. It's part of the "things need to be more balanced" goal.
  
• get a passport - and use it! I know the passport thing was already mentioned but not that I plan to use it. SCG and his family are moving overseas in a few months and that would be a great way to break in the passport I think. (I've already received an open invitation so it's okay - really! :) )
  
• get the work done on my house that needs being done and maybe some of the things I just want done. The main thing is to get the baseboards down and painting - inside and out. The roof is a given since it's required because of the hurricane (it doesn't leak but insurance gave me money to get an entire new roof so I'm obligated to do so). It's the kitchen being redone that is the want.
  
• host a few parties at my house. I used to do this with a regularity but I haven't hosted one single party in my house since I bought it almost 8 years ago - well, unless you count the one time I had Bunco at my house, and I don't. I want to start doing that again.
• get weight back under control. This has been a tough year and well, I'm a comfort eater.

There are one or two more that are a bit more person but those are the biggies. So, how about you? Do you make goals? Resolutions? If so, care to share? :)